Is he my boyfriend? You might be shocked!

Is he my boyfriend?

This seems to be a straightforward question, right?

How can you tell if the man you’re seeing is your boyfriend or not?

You may (mistakenly) think he is your boyfriend if you:

• He spends a lot of time with you.
• He texts and calls him consistently.
• He sleeps with me.
• You’ve met his family and friends.
• He takes you to places.
• He says that he wants to do things with you in the future.

You may be right to wonder, “Is my boyfriend?”

It could also be No!

Tell me about three women you know.

Amanda was in a relationship with a man who she had been dating for three months. They spent 3-4 nights together each week. They had met each other’s closest friends and traveled to Europe with them.

I asked Amanda whether they were exclusive. When I asked her about it, she said that they assumed they were exclusive, but when pressed, she could not confirm. I told her to go ask him. She took a few days to ask him, but once she did she found out that he had been sleeping and dating other women. Soon, it became apparent that he did not intend to commit to her. She was so heartbroken that she moved on. (She met her amazing partner two months later.

Julie and a guy she met online had been dating for a few weeks. He surprised her with flowers, bought her gifts and told her that she was amazing.

Julie’s friend notified Julie when she saw the profile of his on Match.com. Julie asked her friend if she could email him and see if he really was online. He replied immediately. Ouch. Julie assumed that they were exclusively together, but he continued to date.

A few weeks back, I asked Maria whether the man she had been dating for three months (and sleeping in his bed) was her boyfriend. She assumed that he was her boyfriend, but the two had never spoken about it.

Never make assumptions about a person because they are often wrong.

You need to be aware of something VERY important.

Some men will spend time with, sleep with, or travel with, you without ever intending to commit.

Why Would a Man Do That?

It’s because he likes to be with you (and enjoys the sex). Because he is a man. Some guys are like that.

There are many men who have a strong commitment to their relationships. You may come across a man that will date you, even if he isn’t really into you.

Yes, that’s right. He will date you as he searches for someone else, someone he is willing to commit to. Some men are like that. *Sigh*

Please do not let this happen to you. Do not invest your energy, time, heart and body into someone who does not understand how amazing you truly are. You deserve better.

How will you know if he is your boyfriend?

There is only one way. He must ASK you for exclusivity, and say “I want to date only you.” Will you date only me?”

Simple as that.

He’s not your partner if he doesn’t ask!

Asking important questions and finding love soon is possible if you are a confident dater.