Singular and lonely? Here’s my advice…

This year I spent the 4th of July weekend with my family and friends on the Eastern Shore in Maryland. It was a blast!

But I can remember a time, a few decades ago, right after my divorce, that holidays were not so easy. I remember a 4 ^thof July pool party, where I sat and watched all the happy families barbecuing and swimming. I felt lonely and single. I wanted someone to share the special moments of my life with.

Now, fast forward a few more years and I’m sharing my holidays (and normal-old-days with) two very special men, my husband Rob and our son Easton.

In those moments of loneliness, before I met Rob I never gave up on the idea that I would one day have a wonderful partner with whom to spend holidays. I was sure he existed, so I didn’t give up.

I dated, and dated again. My relationships taught me a great deal and helped me grow as a human being. It wasn’t always easy, but it was important. Then, at the right time, I met a cute guy in a bar. (And the rest is History.)

It’s actually a good thing it took me some time to find Rob. I learned to enjoy and embrace being single during those years. I didn’t want to wait to have fun, so I lived in the moment. And boy was I glad I did! These were the best years of mine!

You know that I love to have fun! Life is too short to put it on hold because you still don’t have a partner. You have to get out there and grab the life by its you-know-whats.

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Are you having fun enough?

Think about who or what brings you joy. What makes you laugh? What makes you smile?

Make THAT a priority RIGHT NOW – Because this person, or this activity are just as important as your work, your errands, and all your responsibilities.

Schedule some time for yourself -time you know makes you feel happier and more relaxed. Schedule “happy times” as if they were important appointments, and make sure you do them regularly!

In my busy schedule, I include tennis lessons, walks with friends, and trips. I do this because I know that I can give more to others when I am taking care of myself.

Another word of advice…

Never give up on love!

Have fun, make time to meet new people , and live a full, fabulous life. “The one” will come along when the timing is right.

Enjoy every day, until then!