If you’re not a high-status person, how can you get people to respect and like your

Do you feel that people do not respect you? Maybe they don’t respect you. They may not listen to you or ignore your feelings. You may feel like you don’t really matter to anyone.

This guide will teach you how to gain respect from others, even if your social status is low.

Sections

1. What is respect?
2. How to build trust and gain respect
3. Gaining respect through effective communication
4. Gain respect by showing respect for others
5. Self-respect is the key to gaining respect
6. Setting boundaries to gain respect
7. How to earn respect in other ways

What is meant by respect?

Respecting someone means to appreciate and acknowledge their positive qualities, talents, or skills. We respect someone’s rights as a person when we treat them with respect. If you respect someone you will appreciate their right to express their preferences, be treated with kindness or change their mind.

We all want to be respected. When someone respects your personality, ideas, accomplishments, and feelings, it feels great. If you earn someone’s trust, they are more likely to listen to your opinions, follow your advice and spend time with you.

Build trust to earn respect

In general, people value trustworthiness. You will gain respect from others if you can show them that they can depend on you.

1. Keep your promises

Keep your word to show that you’re reliable. Do not make promises that you cannot keep. If you cannot meet your commitments without excuses, then apologize and make amends.

2. Consistency is key

It’s perfectly normal to change your opinion, lifestyle, or preferences from time to time. If your words and actions are in conflict, people may think you’re a flake or a lie, which will not earn you respect. If you claim that you do not drink alcohol, but you usually have beer with friends, then you will come across as being indecisive and dishonest.

3. Avoid gossiping

GOSSIPING is a bad practice that will not earn you respect. You will lose their trust if you reveal personal information without consent. If you hear someone gossiping, they may assume you would be happy to gossip also about them.

Communication is key to gaining respect

Communication is a key skill for good communicators. They know when and how to express their feelings without creating unnecessary conflict or offense.

Here are some tips to gain respect through effective communication:

1. You should speak so that others will listen to you

Many people who have difficulty getting respect believe that they are not heard and no one cares about them.

You will develop a stronger presence if you make yourself heard. This presence can earn you the respect of those close to you – family, friends and colleagues.

How to talk so people listen to you.

1. When you talk to someone, use their name.
2. Avoid using overly complicated language. People will be annoyed if they cannot understand your words. )
3. Ask the person more questions.
4. Hand gestures can help you convey your message.
5. Make more eye contact. Make sure everyone is getting equal amounts of eye-contact to maintain everyone’s attention.
6. You can improve your vocal projection and articulation by improving your .
7. Use pauses efficiently. Use pauses effectively.
8. Variate your voice and tempo when you speak. You will sound more interesting. Record yourself at home and practice.

2. Body language that is confident

Our body language can reveal how we feel. If you walk with your shoulders hunched and your arms crossed while keeping your eyes fixed on the ground, it will make you appear shy, fearful, or insecure. All of this does not command respect.

People may look up to someone who has confident Body Language. People may think that you are confident for a reason and therefore worthy of respect.

Confidence is characterized by the following characteristics:

• When speaking and listening, make sure to maintain eye contact
• Good posture (no slouching, no crossing of the arms)
• You should walk with a goal (and not aimlessly).
• Keep your head up, and look forward instead of downward
• When speaking, use hand gestures (instead keeping your hands in your pockets).

3. Don’t let people keep interrupting you

In general, people who are respected are not interrupted by others because they are interested in what they have to say. You might appear more confident and socially adept if you know how to handle interruptions.

Try one of these phrases when you are interrupted:

• Just a moment, I would like to finish what I was thinking.
• Excuse me, I think we’ve lost our way. “What I was saying is that ______.”
• “Like what I said before, ______.”
• Please let me speak.

You can use two other techniques to stop people from interrupting you .

1. Take advantage of people’s ability to detect motion

Raise your hand or index finger briefly before you begin to speak. This will make people focus on you because they can detect motion.

You can still speak later if you are not given the opportunity to do so immediately.

1. Use a quick breath to indicate that you have something to say

Make a quick, audible breath in to get people’s attention.

As you begin to assert yourself, you will find that people are more attentive and willing to give you space during conversations.

An interruption does not always mean disrespect. In a lively conversation in a group, for example, people will interrupt each other constantly. That’s normal. This doesn’t mean that they are disrespectful.

4. You can control your anger and temper

People won’t take your anger seriously if you lose it. They’ll assume you’re emotional and irrational.

How to have a difficult discussion or address a conflict in a way which makes others respect you:

1. Prepare some ideas for how to improve the situation before your talk.
2. Instead of causing a public scene, have the conversation privately.
3. Avoid confronting someone when you are angry.
4. Instead of accusing someone, use i statements like “I feel …” or “I think …”” instead.
5. Try to remain calm and not get defensive or angry.
6. Understand the circumstances of the person you are talking to. Tell them that you are willing to work together to find a solution for you both.
7. You should be honest with yourself and admit to any mistakes that you have made. Also, consider what you can do differently in the future.
8. When you are wrong, admit it and apologize.

5. Improve your listening skills

You’ll earn respect from people if you listen and respond to what they say. Listeners who are good at listening often appear to be empathetic, caring and compassionate. These qualities are admirable. A good listener will make others feel valued, and they may receive respect in return.

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Start by paying attention during conversations to improve listening skills. Place your phone or other distractions aside, make eye-contact, and concentrate on what the person is saying, rather than what you would like to respond. Allow them to talk for as long as they want. There’s no need to fill in every silence.