Are you a naughty dater? 5 WAYS YOU CAN BE KINDER WHEN DATE

You are a really nice person and you try to always do the right thing. You are responsible, thoughtful and giving, right?

Even though you have good intentions, could it be that you are a bad dater?

Online dating and dating apps have given daters unprecedented access to singles. This new access in the “Time of Tinder” has led to a sad result: people are disposable. Why go on another date if you don’t feel anything? There are 20 people in your inbox who will be waiting for you. Why spend time getting to know someone, when you can swipe right and find someone younger, thinner or richer?

This is what I call Online dating ADD and it’s real. Dating has never been so frustrating. While it is easier than ever to meet new people, the overwhelming nature of online dating has made dating a challenge. People aren’t being nice to each other . This bad behavior has made many singles feel hurt and hopeless.

It’s time for us to date differently.

As a dating expert, I help my clients become more efficient, successful and kinder daters. Finding love can be made easier with a change in attitude.

Kindness is the most important thing singles can do. In every area of our lives kindness is important, but it’s especially so when you are dating. Compassion, thoughtfulness and courtesy are the key to successful dating. It’s not our intention to be rude, but it does happen. It needs to stop.

Here’s 5 things that you can do now to improve your dating skills and find love more easily:

1. Do not delete emails without responding.

Treat others with the respect and courtesy that you would show a friend or neighbor. Would you delete an email from a friend without replying? Most likely not! If you don’t want to be in touch with someone who has written you online, send them a note that says something like:

Thank you for your email. Unfortunately, I don’t think we’re a good fit. I wish you luck and I hope you find someone special here !”

You may get a reply like this if you write that:

Thank you so much for informing me. It was very kind of you.

I understand that it is difficult to reply to so many people. If you feel overwhelmed, hide your profile. You can then go at a more leisurely pace. Respond to every thoughtful email. Please take the time and effort to respond. It is much nicer than deleting.

2. Do not start a correspondence with someone and then disappear.

When you start a conversation, follow it through. Let them know if they are offensive or say something that you find unsuitable. Don’t disappear without a reason after you start chatting. I tell my client Don’t make people dislike online dating.

3. Do not make assumptions.

Would you like someone to stereotypically stereotype or blame you for how others have been treated in the past? No, of course not. Before you put anyone in a box ask yourself: Do I know for sure or am I just making assumptions?

Ask a question if you want to know more about him. You shouldn’t presume to know more than you actually do about someone. This is not a very nice thing to do, and it will cause you to miss many opportunities.

4. Do not just do the bare minimum. Attendance is key.

Be curious to learn more about your date and what makes him or her tick. Make your date feel that you are truly interested. Also, tell them about yourself. Slow down and be present. Stop listening to the other person with the intention of talking. This will make an improvement in your dating experience and the quality of dates.

5. Don’t lie about your willingness to go out with someone again.

No ghosting! I understand that you don’t wish to hurt someone’s feelings but ignoring them is rude. It’s better not to disappear after a date but instead call or text the following day with something like:

“I enjoyed spending time together and I think you are a wonderful person. (*You can add genuine compliments if you like). After some thought, I feel that we are not the right match. I wish you the best of luck and am sure you will meet someone amazing .”

It’s better to send a note after a date than go POOF, disappear or ignore someone’s text or call. If you’ve been with someone for some time and feel that he or she doesn’t fit your needs, have the same conversation.

You can be unkind by letting someone down. Honesty is brave. The way to grow a pair is: Grow a pair . It takes courage sometimes to do the right things, but it is possible.

It doesn’t need to be. Do not succumb to dating ADD. Don’t focus on the quantity of people you meet, but instead be curious about them all. You can learn more about them by giving them your undivided and compassionate attention. Tell them in the most kind way if they are not. Be kind all the time. The Universe will reward your efforts. It’s just the way it works. This is what I know because I have seen it repeatedly.

Be kind in all aspects of your life. This includes dating.

My religion is simple. “My religion is kindness.” Dalai Lama

There’s no such things as a small kindness. Every act has a ripple effect that is not logical. .”Scott Adams

A tree’s fruit is a good indicator of a person’s character. “A good deed will never be lost. He who sows kindness reaps love .”