What should I do when the check arrives?

Imagine this…

The waiter delivers the bill while you’re out on a date.

It’s there on the table… but it just sits. You become more and more uncomfortable every minute.

You can either offer to divide it or do the fake purse grabber.

Should you go to the ladies’ room immediately and then hope that it is gone when you return?

I get it! It’s difficult to know what to say. You are independent, have a great career, and can pay for yourself.

Let’s be honest, ladies. You WANT him TO pay, right?

It feels great to be treated well and like you’re a fabulous catch, even if you can afford to pay for your meal. You want to be treated like a gentleman, and see for yourself that chivalry still exists.

What should you do if the check arrives?

Ask yourself: “Will I be disappointed if he allows me to pay?” Be honest. Don’t offer if the answer is yes! You’re setting up his failure by offering. Why would you ask for something that you don’t want to receive? This is absurd.

I’d like to share a short story…

My client Chelsea went on a date. She tried to split the bill, but he refused. She graciously accepted? No! He let Chelsea pay the tip. Later, she told me that it was exactly at this moment when she decided Scott was not for her. Seriously? !

Scott told me the next day that he pays for everything but wanted to be sure she felt comfortable. Scott is a good guy, but he can’t read minds. The evening was a loss for him.

When a man invites you to go out with him, you are his guest. He knows that he has to pay. Most of the time he’s willing to pay. Enjoy his generosity. You can bring a feminine energy (literally) to the table when you let him be in charge. Men love this.

There is one caveat. You have to thank him a lot.

My clients are taught to thank their dates at least three times. When he pays you, get up and thank him again when you leave. Be enthusiastic! After all that gratitude, he will be happy he got the check.

In certain situations, you should offer.

If he has a limited budget
If you asked him out
You will not be disappointed if the person accepts your offer if you really want to pay.

You can offer to contribute by saying, “May I?” This is more feminine and less masculine than “I have this” or “Let us split it”. Respect his decision and let him respond.

You can now relax and enjoy the kiss goodnight!

Please share your thoughts in the comments section below. How do you manage the check on a date with your partner?