Are You In A Toxic Relationship? When To Break Up With Someone You Love

Do you have a toxic relationship with someone?

When should you break up with someone?

You can ask yourself this question:

Do you find that your relationship makes you anxious and sad more than happy?

You have a serious issue if you said “yes”. Your relationship shouldn’t deplete your happiness but should instead enhance it.

Here are some signs that you may be in a toxic relation:

• Your partner and you fight often.
• You can’t speak freely. You may even rehearse before you talk.
• It’s too hard to talk about your feelings, so you have to put them down in a text or an email.
• You feel that you cannot trust your partner completely. You feel a little off.
• You are being manipulated and gaslighted by your partner.
• You don’t think your partner is a priority.
• You cannot rely on your partner’s word.
• Your partner is jealous.
• Your relationship with your partner affects your relationships with friends and family.
• You are not invited to spend time together as a couple by your friends or loved ones.
• You partner often criticises you.
• Your partner or you may be violent or shout.
• You are depressed or unhappy most of the time.
• You may feel anxious a lot of the time.
• When your partner is angry, they may withhold affection.
• When your partner is upset, they will give you the silent treatment.
• You feel uncomfortable expressing yourself honestly.
• You’ve been together and broken up more than once.

Here’s a second way to tell if your relationship has toxic elements:

Print out a blank template. Color code your feelings at the end of every day. Choose the color that best represents your mood. If you feel angry, sad or anxious, color the calendar box in red. Use yellow for neutral feelings. If you feel good, color the calendar box in green. If you do this regularly, over time you will be able see patterns and trends. If you have a lot of boxes in your calendar that are yellow or red, it means you’re involved in a toxic situation and need to end the relationship.

You probably ignored early warning signs that there was something wrong in your relationship.

You swept the red flags beneath the rug in the hope that things would change.

You’re not the only one who did. My clients in toxic relationships almost always say “yes” when I ask them if they missed red flags during the first three-month period of their relationship.

When you know that something is wrong, it can be difficult to understand how you could have allowed yourself to continue down the wrong road.

Please do not beat yourself up. Even I ignored intuition and my better judgment, and stayed with the wrong relationship.

It’s only natural for a person who is positive and optimistic to focus on what’s good, rather than the negative. If you are loyal and don’t quit easily, then you will be more likely to persevere.

Now is the time to take stock and better look after yourself. It’s painful to stay in a relationship that isn’t right for you. Over time, this will make you sick.

Breaking up with someone that you love is hard.

Here’s the thing. You must love yourself enough that you can walk away from an unhealthy relationship.

It is scary to be on your own, not knowing what lies ahead. It takes courage to keep moving forward.

You will not be able to meet the perfect partner if you stay in a toxic relationship.

You’ll be stuck in a bad relationship for as long as you can’t hold firm boundaries or move on when something doesn’t work.

Only invest with someone who will treat you well and is invested in your success.

You’ll be more aware of warning signs next time. You’ll also have better boundaries and move on if something doesn’t work. The Universe will bring you your partner when you have the strength to make that decision.

The fastest way to find the right person is by leaving the wrong person as quickly as possible.

Have faith, even if you are scared now.

You are stronger than you believe. You can do it.

It’s a pleasure to give you my book Don’t Waste Time Again on the Wrong Guy: The 5-Step Strategy to Stop Wasting Your Time and Find “The One”.

This book will change your life and help you quickly find the right partner. Please let me how it has impacted your life.

You deserve to love right!