Peter How To Stop Being Quiet (When You’re Stuck In Your Head)
I am often quiet, especially when in groups or meeting new people. I thought there was something wrong. Being “the quiet person” is common among introverts and shy people. It’s also a trait of those who don’t like to talk much.
This guide will show you how to become less quiet in the workplace, at school or in any group. I’ll explain how to stop being quiet and start taking up more space.
The steps we will take:
- How To Be Less Quiet
- Overcoming the reasons why you may be quiet
- Groups : How to be loud in
- How to overcome being quiet for a long time
Part 1. How to be quieter
1. Reduce your standards and focus on what is important
“I don’t really know how to participate in the conversation.” I don’t know what to say when everyone is making jokes and laughing. They can talk for hours, but I cannot.
You may overestimate the importance of what you have to say if you are more anxious. You’ll see that socially-savvy people don’t care what they say. No one will judge them for saying obvious things.
Socializing isn’t about exchanging information. Enjoying time with others is more important. It’s important to practice saying things, even if you don’t think they are clever, valuable, or important.
2. Let your thoughts flow out
You can practice saying whatever you want as long as your words are not rude or ignorant. You can use this to help you decide on what to say.
It’s okay to say something as long as it isn’t rude. It’s time-consuming to constantly think if something is rude. To start, a simpler rule is “don’t say anything negative about anyone or something”. It’s safe to say that if you stay positive, there is no need to worry.
3. It’s okay to take your time when responding
“I felt that before I could think or understand what was going on, someone else would reply with a relevant and witty comment. It’s frustrating, because I think I’m slow and incompetent .”
It is not uncommon for people to take time to think of things to say. This has nothing to do intelligence. My personal experience has shown that intelligent people are more careful, and spend more time forming their sentences.
Respond with a spontaneous response instead of something clever.
- When someone says something funny, you should laugh. This will show you are enjoying the joke and not trying to think of a clever response.
- Ask them to elaborate on what they said.
4. Comment on thoughts and surroundings
People who are socially aware make simple comments. They know it’s an effective way to start new conversations. It doesn’t need to be clever. Even the most obvious comment can spark a conversation.
You: “Wow, cool architecture”.
You friend: “Yes, it looks European. Now it’s natural for you to talk about architecture, Europe and design.
Simple remarks can spark interesting conversations.
5. When you’re not sure, ask questions
When you’re not sure, ask questions.
You don’t need to be afraid of being called stupid if someone says, “I am an ontologist”. Dare to ask questions. “What does an ontologist do?
Genuine questions are appreciated by people. You will have more interesting conversations, and it shows that you are interested in them.
6. You should focus on the conversation, not on yourself
You can do this by focusing your attention on a conversation. It’s like watching a great movie. You will stop worrying how you appear. This makes you feel less self-conscious.
When we focus all of our attention on a subject, it tends to increase our curiosity about that topic. This makes it easier for you to ask questions that will move the conversation along. What was the experience like?, “How did that work?”
When you find yourself in your head, bring your curiosity and attention back to the conversation.
7. Answer questions with detail
Answer questions in a way that is not only yes or no. When someone asks a question it is usually to get in touch and to see if they are interested in speaking to you.
Instead of answering “good” when someone asks how your weekend went, tell them a bit about what you did. It was good. I went for a walk on Sunday, and enjoyed the summer. What did you do ?”?
8. Tell us about yourself
The idea that people want to only talk about themselves is a myth. They want to know the person they’re talking to. It can be uncomfortable to talk to someone who you don’t even know.
It’s a good idea to include a few details about yourself between questions.
- Share your job with someone who tells you what they do.
- Share your music tastes with others.
- Tell them where you’re from if someone mentions where they are.
It is important to give roughly the same amount of information. You should summarize your job in a couple of sentences if someone else does. You can also go into more detail if someone goes into detail about what they do.
