Peter The biggest mistake that most singles make
I remember a few years ago, I had an old client named James.
James could not get a second dating to save his soul.
The women he met liked him, but didn’t want him back.
It was strange because he had a successful career and was very handsome. He wanted to marry and start a family.
I don’t think I could have chosen a more attractive woman to set him up with.
They didn’t think so.
My clients tell me what they think about the women that they met on their first dates. The women who met James all said the exact same thing.
“He is a nice man, but he is boring.”
He doesn’t have any hobbies or interests.
It seems that all he does in his life is work.
It was true. James’s average day looked like this
Get in the gym.
Work is the best way to start your day.
Go home
Eat dinner
Watch TV
Sleep.
Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
And he worked most weekends too.
James had to hear the truth. “James,” I said, “the women I have set you up with find you boring.”
It was a difficult conversation, but you cannot mince your words when you are trying to help someone meet the love of their life!
His answer: “If i had a girlfriend I would stop working so hard. I’d travel. “I’d hike, go to the theatre, and a thousand places else.”
He said he would be willing to go on any adventure, provided he had a girl friend.
But he was not the type of person who would do things by himself.
My job as a matchmaker is to make my clients successful. This strategy of waiting until his girlfriend walked into the picture to start living his life was not working.
James and I dated for about a year, so I thought things were going well. James and Jill were dating for about a month and I thought that things were going well.
Then he dumped her!
Why?
Her words: “She is boring.”
LOL!
He took her to Mexico for a week, but she refused to go snorkeling or scuba-diving. He wanted to try and do new things and she did not.
Ironic, right? He wanted to live as long as he could until he found a girlfriend. The girlfriend he got was as boring as him.
It’s not the perfect match!
Let’s go back a few years…
James, after experiencing the thrill of adventure, decided to DO more things, BE more fun and to wait for a partner instead of doing them on his own. He made more time for his hobbies, friends and travel. He started living.
What happened?
He met someone by himself and fell in LOVE. He’s now getting married.
This story is amazing! !
I tell all my clients that LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.
Positive thinking will attract positive partners.
You can attract a partner that is emotionally healthy by becoming emotionally healthy yourself.
You can attract someone by being interesting.
If you want to attract an adventurous and fun partner, you need to have fun every day, even if you are single.
Do not wait until you meet someone before living life to its fullest.
Do not wait for later.
You will attract your partner if you are the person that you want to BE NOW.
Most singles make the mistake of waiting to live the life they really want. It’s also a sure way to ensure you won’t meet the love of your lifetime.
You want to attract the right people.
If you only remember one thing, it’s this: Like attracts like.
Here’s a great article that I wrote on how to find the love of your life while you’re still single.
